love psychology/love diagnosis/love truth

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Love begins with a glance. Affection shown in the eyes

Romantic feelings are revealed in one's gaze. No matter how hard you try to hide your feelings, if someone you're interested in is nearby, your eyes will naturally be drawn to them.

At a party, for example, strangers will communicate their interest in each other through their gazes. If there's mutual interest, they will steal glances at each other, and their gazes will occasionally meet. Catching someone's gaze and showing that you're aware of them is also done through eye contact. If the other person isn't interested, the glance will be ignored. From a distance, love has already begun. And from a distance, some loves end before they even begin.

The delicate phrase, "to have fallen for someone at first sight," beautifully expresses the beginning of love. However, this is often described from a male perspective, as a man falling for a woman. In the movie "In This Corner of the World," Suzu was chosen as a bride.

The eyes don't lie. True feelings speak through the eyes.

There's a proverb that says, "The eyes are the window to the soul." Our inner feelings are reflected in our gaze. Words and expressions can lie, but our gaze can betray even our hidden emotions. A gaze always speaks the truth. They also say, "The eyes are the window to the soul," and indeed, true feelings are directly reflected in our gaze. A lover whose feelings have cooled will cast a "cold gaze" on their partner. A disloyal lover will be revealed by their gaze. They likely won't be able to look steadily at their lover and will avoid eye contact. Or, perhaps sensing that avoiding eye contact might suggest they are lying, they might stare intently to insist on their lie. However, in such cases, their gaze will be unnaturally intense or somehow unnatural.

If you catch each other's gaze several times, take the courage to approach them.

We naturally turn our eyes towards things we like or that give us pleasant stimulation. And we will try to see them again and again. Conversely, however, we try to avoid looking at things we dislike. For example, we instinctively avert our gaze from cruel scenes or unpleasant sights on television or in movies.

This effect of gaze also works in interpersonal relationships. Interpersonal relationships are always a relationship of "seeing" and "being seen." Normally, we spend a longer time looking at someone we like, but we try to avoid looking at someone we dislike or find unpleasant. By not looking at the other person, we try to avoid interacting with them.

If you both have a mutual liking, your gazes will easily meet even if you are a little distance apart. At a matchmaking party, for example, you can probably assume that someone who doesn't meet your gaze isn't interested in you. If you find your gazes meeting frequently, it's a good idea to take the courage to approach them. They will probably accept you. That's your chance to become closer. If your gazes never meet, it's best to consider it a lost cause.

There may be people who like someone but are so conscious of them that they deliberately avoid, or rather, are unable to look at them. However, even if they don't realize it themselves, it's likely to be conveyed to the other person. Without realizing it, they are probably glancing at the other person.