love psychology/love diagnosis/love truth

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Action Patterns
Cases 1-4

Case 1: We made eye contact a lot from the beginning.

◇Making eye contact is, needless to say, proof that you are both interested in each other. If you felt you made eye contact a lot before you started dating, it's because you were conscious of him, and of course, he was conscious of you. It's definitely a great sign of compatibility when a romance begins.

◇However, eye contact happens in one-on-one situations, so you don't know how he acts around other women. What if he made eye contact with other women too?

You too, when you see someone attractive, you might glance at them. At that moment, if you make eye contact, don't you sometimes get a good feeling, a premonition that a romance might begin?

◇To determine if he's easily attracted to other attractive women, try asking him, "Do you often make eye contact with people in crowded places?" If he says "often," it means he makes eye contact with other women and tends to develop a good rapport with them, even if it doesn't lead to a relationship. Don't let your guard down.

◇That alone doesn't necessarily mean he's unfaithful. To check if he's unfaithful, observe his reaction when a young woman walks by while you're together. If his eyes immediately go to her, there's a high possibility he's unfaithful.

◇Now, if he rarely makes eye contact with others and seems to be someone who "finds making eye contact difficult," then you probably don't need to worry. He's in love with you.

Case 2: You've never had a date with him in the morning.

◇If you like someone, you want to see them even in the morning. If you make a date on a day off, you'll probably go out in the morning. (Except for those who work the night shift)

However, if you've never had a morning date and always meet after school or work, usually from evening to night, he may not really want to be with you. Compatibility: △.

If you always meet from dusk to night, he may be looking for a more sexual relationship rather than a heartfelt connection.

◇On a day off, if you like each other, you'd want to meet in the morning and go somewhere together. But if he never invites you on his days off, or if you invite him and he refuses, he might have someone else.

◇If your evening dates always end with dinner and then a hotel, and he tries to get intimate right away but rarely meets you on holidays or during the day, it's highly likely that he's only looking for that kind of relationship.

Even if you genuinely like him, you might feel used eventually. Make sure you have a relationship where you won't get hurt.

◇To check his feelings, invite him to go somewhere together this weekend, starting in the morning.

Case 3: You always split the bill on dates, and he's never treated you.

◇You're still just friends. If he always insists on splitting the bill, he's trying to draw a line in your relationship.

In other words, he doesn't want to take responsibility. However, he's not irresponsible. Because he's responsible, he's thinking about whether it's better to have a proper relationship with you. He might still be hesitating to decide.

◇If you're in a friends-with-benefits type of relationship, compatibility with a "split-the-bill" boyfriend is ○. If you don't intend to become lovers with a man but want to remain friends, you should usually split the bill.

◇If you like him, and although you've always split the bill, he starts saying "I'll treat you," the relationship will likely progress faster. Compatibility: ○.

He wants you to be his only girlfriend, and he's starting to think he needs to take responsibility for the relationship. Men want to look good in front of the women they like. That's why they want to treat the women they like.

◇If he insists on splitting the bill even when you go on a trip together and stay at a hotel, he's cheap. If you don't find cheap men attractive, your compatibility is ×.

Case 4: You've both misunderstood the meeting place several times, making it difficult to meet.

◇It seems your communication isn't working well. This indicates a poorly communicating relationship. Compatibility is △.

Misunderstandings are likely to continue happening in various situations. It's not just about meeting places; if what you say isn't properly conveyed to him and he misunderstands, the relationship will be difficult. He might also feel frustrated because he doesn't understand you well.

◇If you don't have such misunderstandings with other people, for example, if you've never missed a meeting with other male or female friends due to incorrect time or place information, and even if you don't know where they are, you can confirm the location properly by phone.

◇He might be unreliable and prone to assumptions. If he can't specify or reach the meeting place, or can't meet at the agreed time, he might be careless or moody. Compatibility is ×.

◇Meeting at the agreed time and place is fundamental to dating. Relationships with frequent misunderstandings won't work out.

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