love psychology/love diagnosis/love truth

• koishinri

Humanity and Interpersonal Relationships
Cases 1-7

Case 1: He always wants to meet one-on-one.

◇People want to be alone with the person they like, without any interruptions. If he wants to meet you one-on-one, it's of course because he likes you.

One-on-one dates are the norm. So, basically, this is a great sign for a couple's compatibility.

It's sad, even infuriating, if he brings his friends along on a date or suggests you bring yours. You might think, "Does he only see me as a friend?"

A guy who wants group dates makes you wonder if he really wants to be with you alone.

◇So, wanting to meet one-on-one is a good sign for couples, but there's something to watch out for.

If he only wants to meet one-on-one, for example, if he refuses to meet your friends or is reluctant to introduce you to his, that's a problem.

If you ask him to introduce you to his friends, he doesn't. You never go out where either of you knows other people. You always meet one-on-one.

◇There are two possible reasons for this.

One is that he might not be good at socializing. It might be difficult to have a long-term relationship with such a person. He might not be able to adapt well to society. Compatibility: X.

Even if he seems like a capable person when talking one-on-one, some people lack social skills. Such a man might not be able to adapt well to society, and being with him might not make you happy.

◇Also, some men who only meet one-on-one might have ulterior motives and be trying to deceive you. That's obviously a big X.

Marriage scammers, pyramid schemes, or dubious spiritual healing scams. They often target you when you're alone. One-on-one situations make brainwashing easier.

You sometimes see couples having such conversations in cafes. It's frustrating because even though you might think they're being scammed, you can't interfere.

When you're listening to someone one-on-one, it can be hard to tell what kind of person they are. Anyone who only meets one-on-one and talks about money or great deals is a no-go. Be careful.

Case 2: He often introduces you to his friends.

◇He probably wants to show off that he's dating you to his friends. That means he's serious about you. Introducing you to his friends means he wants a public relationship, a committed relationship. Compatibility:◎.

If his friends are nice and they like you, you two will probably work out.

Case 3: Your friends and those around you say you and he are a "good match."

◇If everyone feels that way, you two are indeed a good couple. Your compatibility is excellent. Getting married with everyone's blessings would be wonderful.

◇However, if several friends say, "You two don't match," or "Something feels off," your relationship might not last long.

You might be so caught up in the moment that you don't realize it, but friends and acquaintances often have a better sense of whether a couple will work out.

Ask your friends for their impressions. However, Note: Don't ask people who are jealous of your relationship.

Case 4: He speaks badly of your friends, and your friends dislike him.

◇This is a difficult situation.

If he speaks badly of your friends, it means he doesn't accept all of you. Generally, men who badmouth women are not good. And to do so in front of his girlfriend? Compatibility is ×.

Conversely, if your friends dislike your boyfriend, it depends on how you feel about those friends. If they are trustworthy and close friends, they probably sense something negative about him.

You might be blindly in love with him right now, but your female friends' intuition might be more reliable. Take a step back and carefully assess who he really is.

If you love him and can't see any problems with him, and you feel your friends are the ones with a problem, your relationship with them will likely suffer.

However, if you feel it's just a matter of incompatibility between your boyfriend and your friends, you'll have to choose between him and your friends. This is a good opportunity to test your feelings.

◇If you truly love him, you'll try to accept your friends.

And if your friends truly knew he loved you, even if they didn't like him, they wouldn't necessarily show it.

Case 5: He gets along well with your parents and family.

◇This will surely work out well. Your compatibility is excellent. It would be great if you were accepted by his parents and family as well. Then, you'll be officially a couple, and your marriage will likely be successful.

◇However, if you have older or younger sisters, especially if they are beautiful and cute, you should be a little careful. Relationships, even between sisters, can be unpredictable. Avoid conflict.

◇If he gets along well with your older or younger brothers, that's great. If he were to betray you, your brothers wouldn't forgive him, damaging his male friendships. With that kind of situation, he won't be able to escape you.

Case 6: He sometimes asks you, "Don't you have any nice friends?"

◇He might not see you as his main partner. He seems to be a bit fickle. If there's someone better than you, he might want to date them.

◇He lacks consideration for you. He doesn't seem sincere. Your compatibility is fair. A guy like this might be the type to say, "Once you've caught a fish, you don't need to feed it" after marriage.

Case 7: You don't like his friends or the people he hangs out with.

◇His friends and acquaintances represent his world; it's his society.

If you can't like those people, it means you can't accept all of him. Perhaps you and he live in different worlds. It doesn't seem like a good match.

Probably, he's not someone you can have a long-term relationship with. Compatibility is fair.

◇Likely, his friends and acquaintances won't like you either. No matter how much you love each other, two people can't live alone.

Friends are important. It's best if you like his friends and acquaintances, and he appreciates yours, don't you think?

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