love psychology/love diagnosis/love truth

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Action Patterns
Cases 5-9

Case 5: He usually drives you close to home when it gets late.

◇It's a man's job to be mindful of a woman's safety. If he drives you close to home, that's a good sign. He probably cares about you. This is a definite plus.

◇A man who casually says "See you later" in the middle of a busy downtown area late at night, or leaves you alone, is a minus.

◇If he readily offers to send you home by taxi and doesn't mind spending a lot on taxi fares, that might be fine for now, but he might be a big spender, so keep an eye on him.

◇If you're not that close yet, and he offers to drive you home and tries to enter your apartment if you live alone, he's definitely interested in you, but he needs to show more restraint. △

Case 6: When you're walking together, a woman who seems to be his acquaintance sometimes calls out to him, "○○-kun".

◇He seems to have a lot of female friends. He's probably the type who dates casually. Among the women who greet him easily, there might be someone he used to date. It might not have been a deep relationship, but they might have been boyfriend and girlfriend for a while.

He's probably the type who can easily say things like, "Let's stay friends" even after a breakup. He might be a bit worrying as a serious partner. Compatibility is △.

◇He might be fine as long as he's having fun with you, but if there's a slight disagreement or a fight, he might find it more enjoyable to be with other women and turn his back on you.

Men with many female friends might seem nice at first glance, but they tend to be rather fickle. If he's handsome, you might struggle with his infidelity later on.

Case 7: He doesn't look back when you part ways. He just walks away without a glance.

◇He's putting on a brave face. He's the type of man who thinks he needs to be strong. Therefore, even if he likes you, he can't bring himself to look back and wave. It's his way of being cool. But you might feel a little sad and wonder, "Does he really like me?"

If he replies to your email immediately after you part ways, it's okay. Your compatibility is good.

◇However, if he doesn't look back at all and doesn't reply to your email, he lacks consideration for you. Sadly, he won't give you what you're looking for. Your compatibility is bad.

Case 8: He doesn't reply to your emails even when you communicate through SNS.

◇If you're dating, even if his replies are slow, you can probably guess why he hasn't replied. Maybe he's busy with work, or maybe he's still asleep. If you can generally imagine his daily routine, it's okay. Don't worry too much. He probably thinks it's alright if his replies are a little late.

◇Even if his replies are a little late, if he replies within the day, he might have been busy with work or other things.

◇If you met him online, started communicating, but he stopped replying, it means he's not interested in you. Compatibility: bad. He doesn't respect you, so even if he gets back to you after a long time, you shouldn't readily accept his invitations. He probably found someone better, or his other relationship didn't work out, so he contacted you again.

◇If you went on a date and then contacted him on SNS but received no reply, your compatibility is bad. He doesn't value you. You should give up on him. He's not interested in you. Look for someone else.

◇Many women worry about not getting a reply from him on SNS. A week, two weeks go by without a reply, yet they wait. Some women even resort to fortune-telling to find out his feelings because he doesn't reply to their emails.

However, if you ask men, most of them will say, "It's because I'm not interested" if they don't reply. If they have feelings for someone, they'll reply to their girlfriend even if they're busy.

◇Waiting anxiously for a reply that never comes is a waste of time. Instead, focus on yourself, enrich your work, hobbies, and friendships. Look forward to new encounters.

Case 9: He often gives you gifts like accessories and bags.

◇Giving you personal items is a message that he wants you to become the woman he likes. He loves you very much and wants you to be his alone. If you can reciprocate his love, your compatibility is excellent. He will surely cherish you.

◇However, he is jealous. Just seeing you talk to other men will make him incredibly jealous. If you act outside of his sight, he might persistently ask, "Where were you with whom?" If you can take his jealousy as a sign of his love, that's OK. If it starts to bother you, your compatibility is questionable.

◇If you are offered personal items from a man you don't like, you shouldn't accept them. Even if you've already accepted a gift and later realize it's a personal item, even if it's from your favorite brand, it's best to say, "I can't accept this," and return it.

He expects something in return. He wants you to be his. Accepting the gift will be interpreted as an OK. Think about why people invest. It's to make a profit; they want a return.

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