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【Understanding Someone's Personality & Feelings】
Show Me Your Hands! (How would you respond?)

Q1: At a mixer, tell a friend, "Show me your hands." How would they respond?

Try this game with someone you're interested in and subtly assess their personality.

※Point: Try to get them to show you their hands without thinking too much.

【Diagnosis】: This reveals their personal boundaries.
This test shows how they usually maintain emotional distance from others.

A: Those who show their palms:Confident individuals. Some openly display confidence, while others, despite appearing insecure on the surface, secretly possess self-pride and are sensitive to being belittled.

Those who show their palms openly, with fingers spread wide, are more open-minded and confident. Those who present their palms neatly together are delicate and easily hurt. The wider the distance between their palms, the more self-centered and attention-seeking they are.

Even if they seem pretentious, those who show their hands this way tend to open up once they get closer to you. They want to build friendships where they can share personal details. They want to be understood.

B: Those who show the backs of their hands:Pretentious individuals. They tend to suppress their emotions and avoid showing them to others. They don't readily share their personal secrets, even with friends. They maintain clear emotional boundaries and are reluctant to discuss private matters. They believe their true selves are not easily understood.

Those who show their hands with a wide gap between them and fingers spread apart have some emotional restraint and self-control.

Those who show their hands close together, with fingers together, are self-absorbed and narcissistic.

Next, try saying, "Show me your palms."


Q2: Now, try saying, "Show me your palm." How will your friends or someone you're interested in offer their palm?

【Diagnosis】This test reveals the degree of openness in a person's heart. It shows how open they are to you right now.

A: Extending all five fingers.：...Their feelings are open. They are in an open state of mind.



They are in an open and receptive mood. They are open-minded towards you. You can have a friendly and easygoing relationship.

You'll likely hear honest opinions and frank discussions. You don't have to be careful, and you can honestly express your thoughts. You can have fun conversations with jokes. Even if you say something slightly rude, they won't hold a grudge if you sincerely apologize.

B: Showing four fingers together, excluding the thumb.：...They are fairly sincere but somewhat reserved. This is a common way of presenting the hand for people who are usually serious and meticulous.





Even with friends, they worry about things like, "Will they mind if I say this?", or "How should I say this?". They are considerate. Don't be too familiar, rude, or blunt, as it might be disliked.

C: Presenting all five fingers tightly together.：They are restrained. They seem to be proper people with strong beliefs about how things should be.




They are not very open-hearted towards others. Even if you want to become closer, it's better not to get too friendly. Maintain a respectful distance.

It's best to keep the conversation light for now. Saying too much or unnecessary things might cause them to worry or hold a grudge. Avoid inappropriate jokes.

If the five fingers are gently curved inward, creating a slight hollow in the palm, it suggests a somewhat passive or currently passive person. They may be friendly and kind.

※In palmistry, the lines on the palm are called "lifeline," "head line," "heart line," "fate line," etc., and are used to predict a person's fortune. Palm readers observe how a person presents their hand. This reveals their current mental state. Before fortune-telling, they can already read the person's psychology and character.

※However, be wary of men at parties who, without much familiarity, ask to see someone's palm or offer to read their palm, and excessively touch women's hands!


Originally published in: 'One Question Psychological Test' by Masumi Nakajima (Nagoka Shoten)