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Is There Such a Thing as Compatible Personalities?

Even people with the same personality can be very different; some are pleasant, while others are not. While personality might be the same, there are vast differences in their character. When choosing a partner, you must discern their character.

In terms of the Enneagram personality typing used in this site's compatibility test, even if the basic type is the same, the level of personality health differs, and this is thought to affect compatibility. Some people are very healthy, others are average, and some are unhealthy.

People whose negative traits are prominent are not considered very healthy. Those whose positive traits are more apparent are relatively healthy.

There are people who are unpleasant and unlikeable, regardless of gender. These people are greatly bound by their personality and are immature in terms of character. Being greatly bound by one's personality means they are unaware of their own actions. They don't understand themselves well and react instinctively. Their actions are often reflexive, leading to poor outcomes for themselves and others.

First, regardless of type, associate with healthy individuals.

Unhealthy individuals become more bound by their personality. This strong attachment to personality makes it difficult to interact well with others. For example, people who tend to have relationship problems don't necessarily have bad personalities; rather, their strong attachment to their personality causes problems. They are emotionally unstable and show signs of mental imbalance.

Healthy individuals are generally well-liked.

Conversely, some people receive mostly positive evaluations from others. Most people would say they are pleasant, good people, or trustworthy. Such people are emotionally stable and well-balanced. They have few relationship problems and tend to succeed in their work.

Conversely, people who often gossip about friends and colleagues, are easily angered, or whose jobs and relationships don't last long are, regardless of type, not balanced individuals. Low health levels exacerbate personality flaws. While strengths and weaknesses are two sides of the same coin, if only weaknesses are prominent, maintaining relationships becomes impossible.

If both partners are mentally healthy, things usually work out.

In reality, if both partners are mentally healthy, couples can succeed regardless of their type. Even if they break up for some reason, or if their life paths diverge, they can maintain a good relationship. They shouldn't get into a messy relationship or hurt each other.

Therefore, don't get too excited or discouraged just because of compatibility types. Look beyond types and consider the maturity and humanity of the person.

However, people are often attracted to those who are mentally unbalanced.

It's common to find unbalanced people, those with problems, or those with a dangerous side more attractive than mentally balanced people.

In everyday relationships, even "unpleasant people" or "troublesome people" you wouldn't want to associate with can seem eccentric and attractive as romantic partners. Relationships with such partners might leave a lasting impression as a deeply memorable romantic experience. It might even be an unconventional romantic experience like something out of a movie or drama.

However, from the perspective of finding a partner for happiness, you should be prepared for the possibility of a breakup in a relationship with an immature or unhealthy partner.

Or, if a breakup doesn't happen, it might lead to a messy, unpredictable relationship where you hurt each other and become codependent. You might end up emotionally scarred.

For your own happiness, it's better to be with someone who is more mentally healthy.