love psychology/love diagnosis/love truth

• koishinri

Dating App Ghosting

I want a boyfriend, I want to find a spouse. But I don't have any opportunities to meet people. For example, my workplace is full of women, or if there are men, they're all married or older. So, I've been going to dating and marriage parties. Also, I've registered for dating and marriage matching sites that are relatively easy to join, and I've exchanged messages with people whose photos looked nice or whose hobbies seemed compatible, and we've decided to meet. With people I've met through this process, we usually communicate through LINE or other SNS, rather than exchanging phone numbers.

So, what troubles women is the problem of "ghosting." "He's not replying to my LINE messages," "He sometimes replies, but I don't know what he's thinking," "I think he's blocked me," etc. Women with these kinds of worries often use telephone fortune-telling services. Many telephone fortune-telling sites offer a free first consultation, so they try calling one. "What does he think of me?"

They get their fortunes told, of course. Depending on the answer they receive, they may rejoice or worry, but if the fortune-telling is accurate, or if they have good chemistry with the fortune teller, they may feel comforted thinking, "I'm glad I got my fortune told," and become repeat customers, consulting the same fortune teller with their worries.

Some women try various easily accessible online fortune-telling sites because of their romantic troubles. It seems that a significant number of women are becoming dependent on fortune-telling. They have a strong desire for someone to understand their feelings. However, it may be difficult to find a man who understands and fulfills that dependency through online dating.

Be cautious and wise when meeting people online.

Meeting people through websites can be dangerous if you're not careful. This is because you can't always be sure that people are telling the truth. You don't know who is registered, and some people may only be looking for sexual relationships.

On the other hand, some couples meet through matching sites and get married, so for those who lack opportunities to meet people, it can be a way to find a partner. It all depends on how you use it, so if you do use such sites, be careful and cautious. Avoid posting easily identifiable photos or profiles that could reveal your personal information online.

Is there any hope of getting a response?

If you're experiencing situations like "He hasn't replied to my LINE," "He's ignoring my messages," or "My messages aren't even being read," some men might simply be the type to avoid replying promptly due to their personality. However, if he's interested in you, he'll likely call you or at least reply eventually. If this happens repeatedly?you send multiple messages before getting a reply, or he never initiates contact?he clearly doesn't value you.

Especially if he's ignoring your messages or you suspect he's blocked you, it's best to move on. He's not showing you respect or honesty, and even if you somehow ended up in a relationship, you wouldn't be valued. He might even be married.

If you ask both single and married men whether they would ignore messages from a woman they're interested in on SNS, almost all will say it's unthinkable. Even if they accidentally blocked you, hid your messages, or changed phones, they would definitely contact you to explain. Don't cling to someone who ignores you. Let go of your lingering feelings and move on.